We’re all about saving money! We find you great offers on freebies and coupons, and post about money-saving ideas, because we get it! We all like to save money when we can and don’t like to waste it. And there’s nothing wrong with that! But how do you know when you’re taking it too far?
I recently came across a post that really shocked me. Jessica Baker and her husband were getting ready for a wedding, when, at the last minute, their child care arrangement fell through. Since the invitation specifically said “no children,” they did not attend. Things happen…But then they were sent a bill from the wedding couple for the meals they did not eat, along with a note saying “This cost reflects the amount paid by bride and groom for meals that were RSVPed for, reimbursement and explanation for no show, card, call or text would be appreciated.”
Is that crazy, or am I nuts? Maybe the Bakers should have texted, apologizing for not being able to make it to the wedding, but I believe this behavior by the wedding couple is really tacky, and a great way to lose friends. Whenever I read articles or posts that fascinate me, I love to read the comments, which are sometimes way more interesting than the post itself. Here the readers were really split between those who thought the Bakers were rude for just not showing, and of course should have paid for the meal, and those who adamantly believe it was the wedding couple who were way wrong!
Saving money is very important, but so is knowing how to behave. You invite friends and family to your wedding to share a special moment with the people in your life who are important to you. It’s not a business arrangement! And just like you don’t charge them for the food they do eat, you don’t ask to be paid back for what they don’t eat! You suck it up for the sake of friendship- and decency- and think of it as part of the cost of the event. I’m including a link to the original post so you can read the comments for yourself.
Let us know what you think! Are this bride and groom being totally thrifty or tacky?